MIAGD:  Being tested… know the difference

MIAGD: make it a great day

Something with this meme resonated with me this morning…

Sometimes I believe we too often feel we are tested when, in actuality, we are simply experiencing the wonderment that life brings. 

I feel society has turned into either whimps, drama queens, or both.  

“They screwed up my order at the photo lab.  God must be testing me.”


But we all know people like this.  

Yes, there have been a few times where I’ve been tested throughout life.  I could say, “I was tested in my early years with having an alcoholic father.”  


Perhaps, not. 

Was it a learning experience?  Yes.  Did I grow from that experience?  Yes.  Did it make me stronger?  Perhaps. Was I tested?  Not really.  

It was life.  It was the life I knew. If anyone was tested in this scenario, it would have been my mother raising three children, and juggling a myriad of life responsibilities. 

I’ve had folks tell me that by raising four very difficult sons, some foster sons tossed into the mix, that I was tested.  

No. No. No. 

A few times out of the hell I experienced, yes.  But 95% of it was navigating them through a new life as they clung to their baggage wrought by previous adults in their life, trying to offer them experiences they’d never had and finding those experiences to build on life, and to work through the traumas, the PTSD, and working with the life-mares (life’s nightmares) that refused to leave. 

This was not me being tested.  It was life.

 It was a life I chose.  

Don’t be whimps.  God/Life is not out to get you.  If you believe so, YOU are out to get YOU. 

Take off the crown of Dramaland: you’re not the king or queen. 

Look at what you might wish to call “tests” and think of it as growth, education, life.  

Save the really big stuff as your “tests.”  If not, you may not have the ability to handle, even recognize the real tests in life. 

While you are finding the joy in the process of life, don’t forget to make it a great day!  

About Wright Flyer Guy

Darin is a single adoptive father, a teacher, playwright, and musical theatre director from Kettering, Ohio.
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