…An End of an Era: Mother Retires from EPD…

This morning, my brother, Destin, and I received an email from Mother: As of February 3rd, I am retired from the Elwood Police Department.

Despite the fact Mother had expressed some consideration along this topic, we were not aware that she was actually setting the process into motion, and so abruptly.  The new administrative changes throughout the city’s leadership were becoming quite stressful, and the air of low-morale, and consistent uncertainty were affecting Mother’s health.  When she initially broached the subject over Christmas, I thought it a bit premature since the elected-changes had not yet occurred.  However, as she began experiencing the health issues, I was somewhat relieved, yet still surprised, by her announcement.

I was sixteen, and a sophomore in high school, when we became a part of the police family.  I suddenly had about 15 police-uncles, several police-aunts, and a ton of police-cousins.  I knew that I always had folks looking after my family.  This was especially comforting when I left for college.

The police department was like any other family – the good times, the not-so-good times, celebrations of weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, births, graduations, and successes.  The family came together at those less celebratory moments, especially when death shrouded a family unit.  The worst was the loss of officers’ children who were teenagers with me.

For the past thirty-one years, I’ve seen Mother joyfully embrace her work with the Band of Blue, and even during the more stressful moments, I never knew her to waiver in her dedication.  Mother was often a big sister, a confidant, a friend, and whether appreciated, or not, always honest with requested advice.  One of her most incredible talents is her ability to organize, and produce.  I am so grateful I received this genetic component from Mother!

I am proud to be the son of this woman who gave so much of her self to her career.  I am relieved that her retirement from the police department is not a retirement from being Mother/Mama to my self, and Destin. The retirement from the EPD will allow her more time for her Grandma-responsibilities!

My grandfather, Leroy ‘Red’ Barmes, joined the department in 1952.  Sixty years later, our immediate family’s connection to the Elwood Police Department has finally come to a close.  I must admit, it is a tad bittersweet.

Mother: Congratulations on 31 years of such fine service to the department, and the community; and, congratulations on your well-deserved retirement.  I am so grateful for, and proud of your career, and so happy (and a little tearful) to know this chapter has now moved on to the next.

Know you are loved…

About Wright Flyer Guy

Darin is a single adoptive father, a teacher, playwright, and musical theatre director from Kettering, Ohio.
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7 Responses to …An End of an Era: Mother Retires from EPD…

  1. Christy Clark says:

    Thank you so much for sharing such a beautifully written and touching story about your mom! I’ve known her for many years and have had the privelage to have worked alongside her more recently. She also had a smile on her face….and never once walked by my office without stopping to chat for a few minutes! She often shared stories of you, Destin and all her grandchildren. She will be missed, but I know that she will be having a wonderful time in the next chapter of her life with all of you!
    With much love and appreciation for having known such a remarkable woman,

  2. Alisha copus says:

    Very well said Darin, she will be missed!! We thought highly of her, and she always thought of others before herself. She will always be like family to us!!

  3. Vera Holliday says:

    Well done, Darin. What a great tribute. I hope your mother’s health issues are not serious. I am sure she will enjoy retirement much more than she anticipates. It’s a big step so there is bound to be a little trepidation.

  4. Jack miller says:

    Congratulation Dianna I am so glad that you can finally slow down. You are such a good person. I sure do miss our talks in the Sally port.once again Congrats you will be missed up there.

  5. Pat Rice says:

    Darin, What a great tribute to a wonderful lady. I’ve had the pleasure of working with your mother for 28 years. I remember all of those years when you, Destin and Dena were growing up in our extended police family. All of those FOP Christmas parties that we all enjoyed so much. And how about those chocolate bunny ears!!! Your mother is truly special to me. She has given me unconditional love and friendship over the years. She’s been there for me in good times and bad and I will always be truly greatful to her. I’ve also had the pleasure to grow up around the Barmes family as I was friends with Ron. And who didn’t like Red…he was always funny and fun to talk to. I remember one time when some of us kids nailed up a basketball goal in the old Fraziers canning factory on 12th street. We weren’t supposed to be in there and someone called the police. As I was crawling out the opening in the door, Red was standing there and I was caught. He laughed and told me to get home and don’t come back there. Darin, you are blessed to have such a fine family. Diana, if you read this, please know that you will always be my friend. Good luck in the future and enjoy your much deserved retirement. Love you always!

    • Darin L. Jolliffe-Haas says:

      Well, Pat, I certainly had not planned to tear-up during my lunch, but your words were so kind. I know Mother values your friendship, and has many wonderful memories. I was such a lucky kid to have you, Ben, Dave, Roger, Jimmy and some of the others as police-uncles. You were all great role models, and I don’t think Mother could have had a nicer group of family members to work with all those years. Don’t think the tradition of cutting off chocolate bunny ears or the feet of chocolate Santas has been abandoned! God knows I love to torture!

      Thank you, Pat, for all the many kindnesses you shared with Mother. You are a special person to the Barmes/Haas family!!!

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