As parents, we often tell our kids that we want them to “act responsibly,” or, “show respect,” or, that “consequences are the results of their actions.” But, do they know what that means? Of course, we hope that our actions are teaching them these things. But sometimes, especially with kids who have various emotional or mental health issues – learning disabilities, autistic behaviors, a sense of entitlement – they need examples clarified.
I am always searching for or creating new things to help re-enforce the tools I am trying to provide. This is a new list:
Your day will be filled with happiness, if you want it to be.
You have to strain your brain to learn new things.
Life is hard, and fun, and boring, and exciting.
Sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do.
Life has a mix of things we want to do and things we don’t want to do.
You get to choose what kind of day you want to have.
Good choices bring positive consequences – things you like.
Poor choices brings negative consequences – things you don’t like.
Respectful means thinking about other people and being polite.
Responsible means remembering what you need to do and doing it.
One respectful minute is not enough to earn privileges.
One responsible minute is not enough to earn privileges.
Being respectful for part of a day is not enough.
Being responsible for part of the day is not enough.
Everyone is treated according to how they act.
If you learn to be a good friend, you’ll have friends.
If you act responsibly all of the time, you’ll be given new privileges.
If you act respectfully all the time, you’ll be given new privileges.
You have to remember to be respectful all the time, not just sometimes.
You have to remember to be responsible all the time, not just sometimes.
You don’t have to know all the answers, just where to find the information.
Kids who get mad get consequences they don’t like.
Kids who are rude get consequences they don’t like.
Kids who remember the rules at home have more fun.
Kids who remember the rules at school have more fun.